A lot of people think I'm crazy: and don't get me wrong, sometimes I agree with them. It's the nights where all I want to do is throw my hair in a messy bun, grab a bottle of wine and veg out on the couch but I can't because I have a million things to get done by the morning. Or the nights my schedule runs back to back from 7 a.m. to 10 p.m. and I forget to eat a single meal.
As a 21-year-old business owner, college student, corporate employee, student organization president, friend, etc. I understand why people think I'm crazy for doing it all. Maybe some of you out there are the same way I am, or perhaps you're also thinking, "Nat, how (and why) are you doing this all?"
Either way, here's some answers on how to unlock your inner girl boss, and tackle what seems like a crazy life:
1. Believe She's In There
Step one to finding your girl boss, is believing you have one in the first place. Having the mentality of "I could never do that," or "I'm not the type of person to do xyz" is the biggest mistake you can make in achieving your goals. Anyone can do anything they set their mind to. When I started Darling Authority, I didn't think twice about whether I was the "type" of girl to run a boutique - I just became one.
2. Play to Your Strengths and Admit Your Weaknesses
Have you ever heard the saying, "sometimes the strongest thing you can do is ask for help?" Well that's the key to unleashing that raging female that's ready to take on the world. It's understanding that the whole world sometimes isn't practical. Find the things you're good at - use them, refine them, grow them. However, find the things you're also bad at. Determine which things are worth working on, and make peace with the rest. You'll burn yourself out trying to be everything for everyone.
3. Organize in a Way That Works For You
I can't force you to go buy a planner, or put reminders in your phone. Because frankly, some of those things don't even work for me. The crazier my schedule gets, the easier it seems for me to just go with the flow and follow a mental organization of my day. However, starting out I definitely lived through my planner and had a calendar laid out in 3 different ways to try to tackle my busy life. Now it's become a routine once I found a way that works best for me!
4. Start Living For You
It's okay sis - breathe. We're all just trying to make it through the day. Let go of the expectations you have set up for yourself, and start living in a way that makes YOU happy. You're only young and reckless once in your life, so max it out! Buy that sweater you've had your eye on, say yes to a night out even though you have work in the morning, take a drive and scream your lungs out. Life is so precious and so short it's not worth spending a second doing something that doesn't set your soul on fire.
5. Take a Day Off, or Maybe Two
When you have a crazy life, it's easy to go, go, go until the day is over - just to wake up and do it again. But I think the way I manage it all is by letting myself take the down time I need. Spend a day watching Netflix. Go get lunch with the gals. I never say no to an opportunity (frankly in all aspects of my life), but that's what keeps me sane and happy! You're only causing yourself more stress by turning everything in your life into an obligation.
BONUS: Change Your Mindset: You GET to Do Things, You Don't HAVE to Do Them.
Alright ladies (and gentlemen I suppose), those are my initial tips to help y'all unleash that female hustler inside of you. Just remember, be easy on yourself and things will fall into place. You're capable of amazing things, just go do them!
Natalie, Owner of Darling Authority